[Jon Freidt]

General guide for being courteous and respectful when we gather to worship and commune; for new and regular attendees.

Below is a concise, general guide on respectful and kind behavior for when we gather to worship. While customs can vary slightly between events, these tips should help you feel comfortable and show courtesy during a church service.

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1. Dress Appropriately

• What to Wear : Non-denominational churches often have a more relaxed dress code compared to traditional denominations. However, it’s still considerate to wear neat, clean, and modest clothing.
• Comfort and Respect : Avoid overly revealing or distracting outfits. The aim is to dress in a way that won’t draw undue attention or cause distraction for others.

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2. Arrive on Time

• Punctuality : Aim to arrive a few minutes before the service begins. This allows you to find a seat and settle in without disrupting others.
• Entering Late : If you must arrive late, enter quietly and take a seat at the back or on the side to minimize disruption.

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3. Silence or Turn Off Phones

• Phone Etiquette : Silence or turn off your phone and other devices during the service to avoid interruptions.
• Emergency Calls : If you must take a call or respond to a message, step out of the sanctuary discreetly.

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4. Follow Service Cues

• Singing and Standing : Typically, you’ll be invited to stand during worship music or at certain points in the service. If you feel comfortable, join in. If not, it’s perfectly acceptable to remain seated.
• Communion : Many non-denominational churches practice open communion for all believers. If you are not comfortable or do not share the faith tradition, you can discreetly refrain. Simply remain seated or politely decline.

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5. Respect Personal Space

• Greeting Others : Many churches have a short “meet-and-greet” time during the service. Offering a friendly handshake or a simple “Hello, nice to meet you” is typically enough.
• Seating : Don’t crowd others in the pews or rows. If you see people looking for seats, be willing to scoot over or kindly direct them to available spots.

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6. Participate as You Feel Comfortable

• Offering : Many churches pass an offering plate or provide drop boxes. If you wish to give, do so discreetly. If you do not want to give, simply pass the plate or box along.
• Worship Style : Non-denominational worship often includes contemporary music and may be more expressive. Feel free to engage in singing, clapping, or raising hands if you’re comfortable, or remain quietly observant if you prefer.

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7. Mind Children’s Behavior

• Childcare Options : If the church offers a children’s program, feel free to use it if you want your child in a more age-appropriate setting. Otherwise, keep children respectfully engaged if they remain with you.
• Courtesy : If a child becomes disruptive, it’s polite to step out briefly to settle them in a more private space, returning when they’re calm.

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8. Respect the Speaker

• During the Sermon : Listen attentively, and try to avoid distractions such as loud whispering, rustling papers, or frequent coming and going.
• Response : It is common for some members to say “Amen” or give positive verbal feedback during certain points in the sermon. Participate as you feel comfortable, but it’s also fine to remain quiet.

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9. Follow Post-Service Flow

• Exiting : When the service is dismissed, gather your belongings and exit calmly. Greet the people around you and thank them for the service if you like.
• Fellowship : Many churches offer refreshments or a café area after the service. You’re welcome to socialize, ask questions, and make new friends if you wish.

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10. Ask Questions and Be Open After Service

• Curiosity : Most non-denominational congregations welcome people of all backgrounds and faith levels. If you have questions about church practices or beliefs, don’t hesitate to politely ask a pastor, greeter, or regular attendee.
• Friendliness : Churches often strive to be communities of care. Showing genuine kindness, openness, and respect will usually be met with warm hospitality.

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Conclusion

By dressing modestly, arriving on time, silencing your devices, and following basic guidelines of respect and consideration, you’ll feel more at ease and help create a positive atmosphere for everyone in attendance. If in doubt, quietly observe what others do and follow their lead—most non-denominational churches are happy to guide visitors and make them feel welcome.

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